Marriage advice

6:17 PM Marcie Parson 4 Comments

When two people get married, everyone seems to feel like they have the responsibility to "grace" the couple with their infinite wisdom about marriage. It's a weird tradition, really, because (1) no one ever remembers what you tell them; (2) most of it won't apply to them anyway; (3) things can get reeeally awkward reeeally fast; and most importantly, (4) your marriage is not and will never be their marriage.

Most of the advice we were given went right over my head, and I don't remember 99% of it (refer to #1). However, we did get one piece of advice that will always stay with me: forget everything you were told about marriage and make it your own

How beautiful is that?

For the first few months of our marriage, I was so excited about creating our new life together. Because I was unemployed, I sat at home hunting for jobs while Craig went off to school -- and let's be honest, new jobs weren't popping up every minute. I ended up wasting my time on social media to try to figure out how to cook/decorate/be a cute housewife.

Weeks went by and I started to get discouraged that I was far from what I thought I should be. I still didn't have a job. I still didn't even know what kind of job I wanted. I still couldn't cook. I still wasn't crafty. I still hadn't hung anything up on the walls. We still didn't have furniture. I didn't do an ounce of decorating. I was stuck, all alone, in a tiny apartment with white walls, beige carpets, and beige linoleum. 

Well guess what.

Seven months later, our apartment still has bare, white walls because I still haven't hung anything up. We still don't have a lot of furniture; our kitchen table is a plastic card table, which we use with plastic folding chairs. Our small (thrift store) couch is beige, which adds a nice flair to our beige theme we've got going on. Our meals are becoming simpler and simpler, and sometimes we just have ice cream for dinner (oops). I still can't sew or cook or "DIY" anything like Pinterest told me I could. Although I finally found a job, it doesn't pay much and therefore doesn't make a dent in our student loans. 

But somehow, although I'm as far from "Pinterest perfect" as possible, my life is infinitely more magical than I imagined it could be. Every day I wake up next to an impossibly kind, loving, and encouraging human being who makes me feel like a million bucks. He spends the majority of his day working so hard to make a good future for our little family. We don't see much of each other with my long work days and his long study days, but during the one hour that our schedules happen to overlap, he lets me koala bear him way more than a normal person should. We have no money -- in fact, we have negative money -- but I've never been happier.

I may have forgotten everything we were told about marriage, but we've made it our own. As a result, I have fallen in love with this beautiful, simple stage of our life. It's real, it's ours, and I wouldn't have it any other way.




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Huntington Beach

7:58 PM Marcie Parson 3 Comments

About a month ago, I woke up to a text from Aubrey that said, "Want to go to SoCal June 6-8 as my nanny?"

I immediately looked at my calendar and saw that I just so happened to have that Friday off of work -- practically a miracle. My heart leaped. Getting together with my siblings is hard since we all live so far apart. Once I saw that I could actually go, things happened so fast and I suddenly had a flight to Orange County and was staying in a ritzy hotel.

No complaints here.

We spent hours at the beach and by the pools, and baby Daphne survived being trapped with her scary Aunt Marcie all day Saturday while her mama was working. It was a perfect weekend getaway from the 110 degree heat.



^^I'm a really good nanny. Kids love me. ^^

The best part? I didn't have to say a real goodbye. Usually I only see family once a year, but Summer 2014 is the Summer of the Princes. Craig and I will welcome Mama and Papa Prince back to America in two weeks. And one month later the rest of the Prince gang is meeting up at the OBX in North Carolina. We'll be together for the first time in 3 years.

I can't wait.

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Bored of boards

5:04 PM Marcie Parson 2 Comments

Studentdoctor P. has boards in one month.

Since boards are kind of a big deal and play a small part in determining the future of you and your family, this means that students must go into caves until completion of said exams. Stress levels are high and the library is your best friend.

It is a treat to have a night with my man. It's an even bigger treat to go out with my very best friend AND my man. Last weekend Lisa and Ryan came down to Arizona for a little vacation, and with perfect timing, I had two days off of work to spend with them. We spent our time in sunshine, and we even dragged Craig out of his cave to go to a Diamondbacks game.

Even though I can't pretend to know a lot about baseball and although Craig ruined every picture of the four of us, it was a perfect night to cure our boredom of boards. I'm so grateful for my these best friends of mine. And I can't wait for boards to be over.





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